Step-by-Step Online Dating Profile Creation Guide

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Writing your online dating profile can be a tricky thing. You may want to build yours using other dating profile examples. This is understandable: many of us feel fine discussing ourselves in conversation but put us in front of a computer screen with a few text boxes to fill and we freeze up. This can lead to some of us relying on dating profile examples as the basis for our profile…which doesn’t always work that well.

I believe that writing a profile from the heart is the best option as it will better show who you are. However, I also know that this can be a difficult process. In this article, I’m going to go step-by-step to creating a basic online dating profile with the goal that you will have a strong dating profile that really reveals to your potential dates who you are. Hopefully this will serve as a good alternative to using other online dating profile examples as the source for your own profile.

Basic Dating Profile Examples

Before I begin, I was to recap very briefly the rules I lay out in my online dating guide for creating your profile. I go into great detail into each of these areas there so I’ll just recap here:

Online Dating Guide Profile Recap

Rule	Description
Avoiding Elimination	Don’t feel that you have to reveal every last detail about yourself.
Brevity	Your profile should only take a minute or two to read. If your profile contains screens full of text you’ll want to think about slimming it down.
Avoid Confusing Jokes	Don’t obsess with trying being funny. You’ll have plenty of time to win them over when you’re communicating. Trying to be funny hurts far more profiles than it helps.
Stay Positive	Being negative in your profile can give people the wrong impression of your personality. Remember: your profile is their first impression of you.
What You Aren’t Looking For	Don’t list everything you don’t want. Profiles written like drive away contacts. Again, be concerned with the first impression you’re providing.
Be Honest	Don’t use pictures that are 5 years old, don’t lie about your appearance or height or whatever. You will meet some of these people and their first thought when they meet you if you do this will be that you lied to them.

Now that we’ve covered the basics of what you should be keeping in mind as you write, let’s begin looking into a simple way to create your profile.

Step 1: Get Away From Your Computer

The first step is to sit down somewhere quiet and write the ideas I’ll be presenting here down on paper. Trying to create your first dating profile or even trying to get it just right can be an intimidating process. So find a quiet place and grab a pencil and a piece of paper. Also, be prepared to put some time into this. Some people will only spend a few minutes creating their dating profile only to remain dating online for months with a sub-par profile. You should plan on setting aside some time so you can really think your profile through.

Step 2: Thinking About Who You Are and What You Like

Here you’re going to need to think at least 10 words or phrases that describe who you are and some of the things you like. This may be more difficult than it sounds. If you have trouble thinking of things, concentrate on how you’ve spent your time over the last week. What hobbies have you pursued? Have you looked forward to watching particular shows or are you reading any interesting books? If you didn’t have any responsibilities for the next week, how would you spend that time? Take the time to think about these things and write each item down on your piece of paper. You should have at least 10 items here. Don’t stop until you have that many!

As an example, I would write the following items down for myself:

homebody	my dachshund	video games	reading
church	The Office	blogging	computers
the Steelers	Counting Crows	Digg.com	Philosophy
my job

Step 3: Fine-Tune Your Personal List

Look at your list. It’s time to identify the areas that will best reflect who you are and remove the ones that aren’t likely to help you find any dates. Review your list and underline any of the areas that you would like to expand on. I’d recommend at least two or three of the items. Be sure to pick the items that you think are most relevant to who you are and items that you can easily speak about. Next, cross out any of the items that you think won’t help your profile much. Don’t exclude anything that makes up the core of who you are even if you think it wouldn’t help your profile! Right now we’re just getting rid of some of the noise that could potentially clutter your profile (remember: brevity!).

From my list above, what I would end up having would look like the following:

homebody	my dachshund	video games	reading
church	The Office	blogging	computers
the Steelers	Counting Crows	Digg.com	philosophy
my job

I’ve eliminated video games and computers because they’re both a part of my life but by no means do I need them to be a part of the life of the person I meet. Additionally, neither of these areas is likely to help me have a connection with the women reading my profile. I also remove philosophy, not because it’s a bad thing but because trying to make yourself sound smart or funny in your profile can be a turn-off and I want to avoid even giving the appearance of this.

I’ve decided that I’ll talk about being a homebody (that I prefer staying in over going out) because it is a very large part of who I am. I’ll also talk about my dog and my participation in my church because of the role they have in my life and then I’ll talk about the Counting Crows for a little extra insight into who I am. I’ll also include some about my job as it will provide me a good opening to my profile.

Step 4: Making Your List Into Dating Profile Text

Now I’ll take each of these areas that I’ve identified and I’ll incorporate them into the beginning of my profile by writing out a rough draft. Here’s what I would end up with:

Hello! My name is Brad and I’m a software developer in the Pittsburgh area. I work on an application that uses statistics to catch people stealing supplies so it’s a very interesting job. I have a miniature dachshund named Brownie who is a ton of fun. I’m something of a Netflix addict and really enjoy getting comfortable in the evening and watching a movie or catching one of my favorite shows (like The Office or Modern Family!). I’m also very involved at my church and really look forward to getting together with my friends for our small group every week. I am a quiet person and much prefer intimate settings over a loud bar or club…unless I’m going to see something like a Counting Crows concerts (who I’ve seen far more times than is reasonable). Aside from that, I really enjoy reading, blogging, browsing Digg.com, and watching the Steelers.

In this example, I’ve made an effort to expand on each of the important areas I identified in Step 3. Also, you’ll notice I don’t come out and say “I’m a homebody”. I don’t want to introduce anything into my profile that might be negative but at the same time I really do enjoy a quiet evening on the couch with someone I love over being out. Instead of bluntly stating this, I emphasize this fact as I describe myself throughout this section of my profile.

How To Do A Good Dating Profile

Step 5: What You Bring to a Relationship

The next section of your profile will be where you “sell” yourself. You don’t want to sound like you’re bragging but you do want to make the case for why you’re worth that first date. Just as before, take some time to think and then write down the things that you’ll bring to a relationship that others would like. This section can be significantly shorter than the first but that’s no excuse to not put in time thinking about this! Identify a few areas of strength about yourself and briefly describe them. Below is my list (including the second step of fine-tuning my choices) and then the next section of my profile is created based on this:

loyal	patient	independent	playful
caring	emotionally solid

I’m very loyal, especially to my friends and those I care about. I value the idea of having standards and standing by your word, even when doing so becomes inconvenient. I believe that I’m emotionally steady and very little gets me upset or angry. I’m also very caring and as a line from one of my favorite movies says, it’s just as important for me to love as it is for me to be loved.

Step 6: Thinking About Qualities You Want in The Person You Date

Just as was done with personal traits/hobbies, you’re going write a list of the most important thing you would like to find in the people you date. This list doesn’t need to be as long as the previous one but be sure to really think about what is important to you. Again, this list will be fine-tuned by identifying which areas are most important to you and which ones can be left out. Below will be the list of qualities I would like already fine-tuned and following that will be my next paragraph of my profile:

caring	understanding	creative	willing to compromise
Christian	intelligent	long-term relationship

The woman I’m looking to date is very caring; she is someone her friends and family refer to as “sweet”. She is intelligent and creative and helps me see the world in a new way. Because of my commitment to my faith, she is either a Christian or open to discussions on faith and learning about mine. If this woman sounds like you, feel free to contact me.

Here I eliminated the qualities that I thought might be misunderstood or, if I’m honest, the ones I had trouble deciding how to describe it.

At this point, you would take each of these sections you’ve written out and create the full profile on your dating site of choice. If you wanted to add any additional sections, feel free to. I realize this profile isn’t very long but I actually think the length is fine. I was able to express what’s important to me which is much more important than the length. If your profile is more than double the length of this sample one you may want to consider shortening it some. Also note that I followed all of my online dating guide profile rules. If you add sections be sure not to break any of these.

As I mentioned at the beginning of this article I think it is best if you personally write your profile so that it most accurately reflects who you are. My hope is that this process will help those with dating profile writer’s block without taking away from the personal feel of their profile.

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(Last Updated On: 05/23/2015)

Below is part of a slightly edited great dating profile example written by a woman. I found this profile to stand out from most others, making the writer sound interesting and attractive as a person, rather than ordinary and cliche, like the vast majority of dating profiles seem to appear. Check out my new “Powerful Online Dating Profiles” Guide for a collection of exceptional dating profiles written by women, which can be useful in helping you put your best foot forward in the online dating world, whether you are a guy or a woman.

My Self Summary:

Fact: I don’t kick it with pessimists. Sarcastics? Yep. Pragmatics? Totes. Realists? For real. Straight up Pessimists? No, thank you.
Likes: my dog, laughter, my kindle, honesty, music, curiosity, sprawling vistas, leisurely walks, foodgasms, volleyball, kisses, lattes, road trips, manhattan(the place and the beverage) and anything benedict (except for arnold), and kindness. lots of kindness.
Dislikes: calories, bugs, dishonesty, tomatoes, black licorice (and anything that tastes like it), eye rolls, poor grammar/spelling, tactlessness, juggalos, black coffee, doing dishes, and the price of gas.
I’m on the internet often. I often find myself on long, wandering walks with no destination in mind.
I’m open to short-term dating (because it’s fun), but know that I am dating with an eye for the long term (because it’s more fun).

What I am Doing with My Life:

I spend my (week)days in the sunny Dogpatch of SF working for the man, but I believe in what I do… isn’t that what matters?

I am Really Good At:

laughing, genuinely, even at the stupid jokes.
cooking, but not doing the dishes.
hugging, and making others feel better.
sleeping, like a rock.
wearing my heart on my sleeve, though sometimes I wish I wasn’t so good at it.
partying, seriously, I plan events and they’re awesome.
solving the puzzles on wheel of fortune, it’s uncanny.
writing amazing resumes and cover letters. fun stuff.

I spend a Lot of Time Thinking About:

how I lived before “archer.”
board games.
kissing.
do me and my profile match? (i’m told the answer is yes.)
cooking.
office supplies.
family.
philanthropy.
how come you keep lookin’ at my profile but you don’t message me?
kismet.
the order of my netflix queue.
what to put on my kindle next.
where to go on my next day trip or hike.

What To Put For A Dating Profile

You Should Message Me If:

you believe in love and romance (aka you’re a total, fucking hopeless romantic too).
you think that your already-pretty-great life is better when shared with someone, and you’re ready to find that someone now-ish.
you’re as likely (and as happy) to spend Sunday lazying away in bed as you are to be playing games and enjoying the outdoors, but no matter what you do, there will be brunch.
you want to teach me how to sail.
you think it’s more adorable than embarrassing that I love benihana.

What Is A Good Dating Profile

(know that I try to reply to all messages that are thoughtfully written, but I can’t reply to *all* messages, especially those not thoughtfully written.)